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Let’s do some reflections

January 28, 2015 253 Comments

By Nana Uzir 

Have you ever felt bad or upset when you know some people hate you be it for reasons or for no reasons? Trust me, I really did, especially when you have made efforts for whatever it takes to repair what you have done in your past. But sometimes things didn’t work the way you wanted it to be. Anyway, it doesn’t matter.

You can’t make everyone love you, simple, it’s a life lesson 101, you just can’t. But you can always be better from day to day. Remember, there’s always room for improvement. The least you can do if you know there is somebody out there who doesn’t like you, is just stop hating them back. Otherwise, it’s a burden you carry wherever you go. I have always said to my sisters, let people hate us, but let’s not ever hate others. So why bother Allah has promised us something in return.
I never gave this much thought until much later when I talked to my classmate. She is just adorable although she is one year younger than me. The way she thinks, the way she behaves towards others is just amazing.

Based on my observation, yes, people can upset us. They can cause anger, frustrate and displease us. That can be their action. We can choose to either react in anger, frustration and hate, or we can choose to act with patience, understanding and acceptance. Logically (you can tell how I love all things logical), we should choose to act in a way that benefit us the most, not just for short-term, but in the long run.

For example, when we realised we have been blocked from all social networks to connect with friends (in my case I consider them as my friends), we smile and accept it. There’s nothing to be mad about. It’s their right. And your right too if you choose to do the same thing. 

And what I have learned about hating-loving people, if you have to choose to judge people at face value because you don’t know them very well, it’s much better to assume that people are nice and genuinely good. Why?  Because if they aren’t nice, why do they have friends? Why is that they are loved by their parents? Because no matter how unpleasant they have treated you, they have their own good sides. And what is most important they are created by Allah, with the “evil-attitude” you are talking about.

To conclude, one of my best friends always reminded me of the philosophy to assume everyone being “innocent until proven guilty” rather than “guilty until proven innocent”. It’s not too late to reflect what we have done for the past 20 years of living, and always having the thought that “Allah is The Most Forgiving”. Who are we then not to forgive people who commit mistakes against us?

Let’s change for the better and hope for a brighter side in future.

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