By Baraah Aldaw Alnour
Life is full of blessings, some obvious and many others not so, but one of the most underrated blessings of life is in the ability to forget. I say that because if not for that ability many of us would forever remain haunted by experiences from our past.
Whether it’s breakups, deaths, failures, pain, anger, you name it, life is just littered with experiences that have the power to paralyse our progression in it. Having said that, moving on is not just about forgetting. It is actually much more than that. It’s about being able to look back at something and not have it affecting you in the same way.
So, in fact when it comes to moving on it is not actually about forgetting the experience, but more of forgetting the hurt, and that is where the blessing lies.
The reality is that there is no real technique to moving on. It’s often dependent on the individuals themselves. Some simply take longer than others to get over things, which is why very comically breakups often end up being a race of who can forget the quickest.
There are things that help of course, stuff like religion, family and friends etc. These all can aid in the process. Also, a very common advice when it comes to moving on is trying something new, like picking up a new hobby, meeting new people, re-locating even, basically anything that would inject a new lease of life into your life. However, these all function much like morphine does for cancer patients, they only partially numb the pain and under any circumstance it’s almost always an issue of time.
Time is the great decider for a lot of our lives matters. Wait long enough and you would almost always see the wisdom behind the things happening to you. Try to rush time on the other hand, and you will almost always lose out on a great lesson, or simply lose! You see moving on is a lot like healing a broken bone, it always grows back stronger, given the time, but try to rush the healing process and you are left with a severely weakened bone that is susceptible to another break.
One of the strangest things about moving on though is that you never really see it coming. Sometimes it may seem like you would never be able to get over something or someone but just like that you eventually do. It’s like you could be crying buckets one night and the next morning you wake up thinking to yourself what the heck was I crying about last night. It’s that powerful and that strange!
What I do like about moving on is that with it comes hope. Hope for forgiveness, hope for redemption, hope for change and hope for better things to come and you would always come out of the entire process stronger. As the saying goes “whatever does not kill you only makes you stronger”.
Finally, it is said that the entire process of life is in fact about letting go or moving on, and I guess that is pretty accurate because eventually there are a lot of things that we need to let go of. Our parents, our friends, our pets and everything else that we have ever owned when we eventually let go of ourselves.
“Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعون” ***