By Nurul Saadah
GOMBAK, 1 March 2020: The institution of family unit today is not under attack but rather constantly being changed, a lecture on “Family Crisis” was told on Friday (28 February).
According to Ustadh Anisul Haque, “Compared to twenty or thirty years ago, the idea of family was entirely different from what it is now.”
He said, “In those days both parents were mostly not working. However, nowadays, there is a huge shift, and it comes with its own problems such as not enough time dedicated to the family itself.”
The speaker is a graduate of the University of Madinah, Saudi Arabia, and currently he is a teacher at the Seven Skies International School here.
He elaborated, “Within a family, many types of crisis may happen. It is important to know how we can be dutiful to our parents and maintain the relationship with our family members, even when they have been proven to be difficult.”R
Ustadh Anisul emphasised the rank and the weight of respecting our parents. “They must be treated with honour as disrespecting them is such a major sin.”
He further said, “It is interesting to know that from the Al-Quran itself and hadith from Prophet SAW, the sin of disrespecting our parents comes after shirk. It is mentioned that worshiping Allah SWT is the most important part for the Muslims, then we must never associate anything with Him (shirk). After that, be righteous to our parents.”
“In Surah Al-Isra (17:23-24), it is stated that if you find your parents in old age, do not ever say to them “Uff” and do not repel them but speak to them with noble words,” Ustadh Anisul said, adding that “this ayat explains that we are not allowed to express frustration towards our parents, do not raise our voice, treat them with kindness and never push them away.”
He reminded the audiences how we need to lower ourselves with humility no matter who we are, no matter who Allah SWT chooses for us to be our parents. Although someone is a king, parents will still be above him.
“The pleasure of Allah SWT in the pleasure of the parents, and the displeasure of Allah SWT with the displeasure of the parents,” Ustadh Anisul emphasised.
He advised on how respecting towards our parents will only reward us, but if we disrespect them, the consequences will come directly.
“When people are respecting their parents, they are protecting the ties with their family. Thus, they are ensuring the good relationship with Allah SWT as well.”
Ustadh Anisul also highlighted that in order to achieve the blessings of Allah and show how we fear of Him, it can be through who we demand the mutual right and through our kinship.
Concluding the talk, Ustadh Anisul said: “It can be seen how truly important for everyone to never ever cut the blood relationship. It is Allah’s commandment that must be followed and should not be disobeyed. No one should regard a family member as merely someone they live with. It is more than that. Family is the gate of paradise, the one who can lead us to the heaven of Allah.”
An insightful lecture entitled “Family Crisis” was successfully held at Engineering Main Auditorium last week aimed at sharing the knowledge on how to deal with issues within a family in an effective manner and in the way Allah has ordained us to do.
Organised by Revivers in collaboration with The World Assembly of Muslim Youth (Wamy Club), “Family Crisis” is one of the events under the brand new series for this semester which is “Deadly Sins”.
For full video of “Family Crisis” talk, you may go to this link:
https://m.facebook.com/khayr.my/videos/204640843942619/ ***