By Ramlah Abu Bakar
In a world of turmoil and uncertainty, having a wonderful and happy family is our priority. Some people feel lonely and empty with life without family. Meaning to say a family is vital. But not everybody is lucky enough despite having a family as some of us have experienced a broken family.
Now, how do we define a broken family? Some people might have lots of different perspectives based on their opinions. In my opinion, a broken family might happen because of separation due to illness, fighting, misunderstanding, divorce or other issues. Because of these problems it has caused negative impact on family members especially to children.
Furthermore, as parents, they should focus more on their children who are underaged as at this age children are undergoing a growing up process. So, parents should not neglect them and it is compulsory for them to give their solid love as much as they can.
I am really sure everyone would dream to have a lovely family in their life. Same goes with me, I wish when I get married, I will have a lovely family. Even though it is a wishful thinking I really hope it will come true one day.
Now, I think my life is not like my wishful dream because my family is a little bit in chaos. I am sure everyone has his or her own family problem but I always wish that my family matters will be resolved. During high school, when I mingled around with my friends, sometimes I felt so inferior. Eventhough they came from different background they still managed to have strong bonding among family members. However, once I kept remembering that everything must have happened in this world for a reason.
So, family members especially parents should always play an important role in shaping and guiding their children to a good life later. They cannot easily wash off their hands from their own responsibility. So, from my own opinion, everything depends on the parents to avoid from having a broken family.
Now, when I got into university, my world and outlook is getting broader as I met several people from different background and culture, besides I could also learn many new things from them. Meaning that, in this world, it’s not just only me who have family matters but others too. At the university, when I met a number of people, I got to understand something that eventhough we have a hard time we should not easily give up. We should always try to better ourselves in order to face the challenges.
I never think that I will meet someone who has a family problem like me but being with her all the time makes me feel comfortable and at ease because we understand each other very well. But, I did not really expect that her problems are worse than me. So, she feels stressful more than me and she always cried when she expressed her feeling. At that time, I also learned something that what we feel easy for us is sometimes hard for the others. But I keep on giving her the support and advise her that in our life the test always awaits us and we cannot avoid it as the trial cannot be easily predicted.
From her story and expression, I know that she had experienced a broken family and sometimes she tried to hide it from other friends. Besides that, I also can feel what she feels. Based on her sadness, I know that her parents are not getting along well and always fight with each other and when that happened she will feel so depressed because during that time also her parents will release their tensions on their children like they would easily hit them.
It is illegal from family institution because parents should protect their children and not to hurt them. When she expressed her feeling, at that time, I remembered my family as well because compared to her, my problem is heavier but I never mentioned in detail my problem to her. In my family, some of my siblings got divorced, always fighting with each other and also involved in drug abuse. These issues have led to chaos in family as it would affect their children.
Moreover, to resolve these issues are not of my own ability because I cannot control the circumstances and I cannot solve the issues easily as these need contribution from others. What we can do is to try to minimise the issues. Sometimes people who have similar problem like me will always feel burdened and hard to bear. Nevertheless, because of this trials and challenges I have to go through, they have actually made me become more matured and stronger than before.
Thus, it is very vital for us to be patient and smart whenever we face the problem. We cannot allow ourselves to feel sad about it. What we should do is to put in our mind and heart that we should not give up easily. No matter what happens in the future, we should move on and pray to Allah SWT that everything is going to be fine.***
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